Archive for the ‘love’ tag

#  People Just Want to Date Themselves →

April 16th, 2014 at 17:45 // In Worth Considering 

I’ve always found this idea kind of tenuous, but hard to deny:

The data reveals a clear pattern: People are interested in people like themselves. Women on eHarmony favor men who are similar not just in obvious ways — age, attractiveness, education, income — but also in less apparent ones, such as creativity. Even when eHarmony includes a quirky data point — like how many pictures are included in a user’s profile — women are more likely to message men similar to themselves. In fact, of the 102 traits in the data set, there was not one for which women were more likely to contact men with opposite traits.1

Men were a little more open-minded. For 80 percent of traits, they were more willing to message those different from them. They still preferred mates who were similar in terms of height or attractiveness2, but they cared less about these traits — and they didn’t care much at all about other things women cared about, like similarity in education level or number of photos taken.3 They cared less about whether their match shared their ethnicity.4

While the author is kind of careful, she does have a bit of a corrupted data set — using data almost exclusively form a website whose whole business model is matching similar people — she at least acknowledges it. Still would like to see someone find a better way to study the topic, but the basic fact that most couples are more similar than different is hard to deny.

#  First Kiss →

March 12th, 2014 at 11:20 // In Worth Distraction 

If you’ve not seen this by now, you should watch it. It’s a sweet video premise: take 10 pairs of strangers and have them kiss for the first time.

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#  Observing Love on Facebook →

February 21st, 2014 at 16:37 // In Worth Considering 

In honor of Valentine’s Day last week, Facebook made a number of interesting post based on the unfathomable quantities of data they possess. The specific effects are generally understandable but not necessary what you would have predicted. On the frequency of Facebook activity as a  relationship starts:

During the 100 days before the relationship starts, we observe a slow but steady increase in the number of timeline posts shared between the future couple. When the relationship starts (“day 0”), posts begin to decrease. We observe a peak of 1.67 posts per day 12 days before the relationship begins, and a lowest point of 1.53 posts per day 85 days into the relationship. Presumably, couples decide to spend more time together, courtship is off, and online interactions give way to more interactions in the physical world.

facebook-posts-vs-relationship-timeline

 

The start of relationships post got the most attention, but their profile of religion, age, and breakups also interested me.

(via The Atlantic)

#  I Want to Make Love to You Like In the Movies →

September 5th, 2013 at 18:57 // In Worth Distraction 

Cute enough to share:

I want to tear that up after a long and dramatic courtship where I slowly gain your trust, but lose it at the worst possible moment by revealing our relationship was part of a bet or that I have destroyed your small independent business. Then I’ll earn your confidence back with a grand, breathtaking gesture that was foreshadowed months earlier.

(via kottke)

#  MLK’s “Loving Your Enemies” Sermon →

September 9th, 2012 at 15:01 // In Worth Reading 

I now forget why I had this in my to-read pile, but I’m definitely glad I did:

In the final analysis, love is not this sentimental something that we talk about. It’s not merely an emotional something. Love is creative, understanding goodwill for all men. It is the refusal to defeat any individual. When you rise to the level of love, of its great beauty and power, you seek only to defeat evil systems. Individuals who happen to be caught up in that system, you love, but you seek to defeat the system.

#  The Way We Love Now →

June 30th, 2009 at 18:15 // In Worth Considering 

Ross Douthat’s been on the editorial page of the New York Times for a few months, and while none of his columns have been out-of-the-park exceptional, most are rather good. Yesterday’s example:

When it comes to divorce rates and out-of-wedlock births, Americans with graduate degrees are still living in the 1950s. It’s the rest of the country that marries impulsively, divorces frequently, and bears a rising percentage of its children outside marriage. Indeed, if you’re looking for modern-day Percy Shelleys or Mary Wollstonecrafts (to pluck a pair of Nehring’s romantic risk-takers), you’re more likely to find them in Middle America than among the environmental lawyers and documentary filmmakers who populate Tsing Loh’s depressing social world.

He’s exactly what I thought he could be — a Brooksian conservative who’s not afraid to venture deep into the personal, religious, and moral weeds that Brooks himself mostly avoids.

#  The Ideal Lesbian Paramour? →

January 19th, 2009 at 20:01 // In Worth Knowing 

June Thomas informs us that current literature suggest it’s a Secret Service agent.

Also: Tim Carmody, noting the sidebar links to a woman fascinated by Obama’s Secret Service detail and a short note about the  broader idea of “protection porn,” sees the genre as an allegory for all romantic relationships.

#  Elderly Intercourse →

June 10th, 2008 at 18:22 // In Worth Reading 

Melinda Henneberger tells an emotive story about the complicated love between a couple with adult-onset dementia. This line sums it up effectively:

This was a 21st-century Romeo and Juliet.

#  Start Loving →

March 26th, 2008 at 8:53 // In Worth Seeing 

It’s an interesting name, and an obvious reason. I’d like my name to stand for such a great idea.

#  Proposing on Twitter →

March 25th, 2008 at 13:53 // In Worth Distraction 

Twitter — that 140 character “microblogging” engine — officially became the least romantic way to propose when it was recently used for that purpose by Greg Rewis.